Convos (Blog)

Applied creativity and inventive thinking for regular people in everyday life.

Find Your North
M.J. DElia M.J. DElia

Find Your North

I don’t need Spotify Wrapped or Apple Music Replay or Miro Recap (nod to my facilitator nerds). I just need a few minutes to rest, reflect and renew. Last week, I committed to two reflection-related tasks: 1) I joined Chris Taylor’s Preloaded Year workshop, and 2) I completed the Year Compass for 2026.

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One Degree Away
M.J. DElia M.J. DElia

One Degree Away

I’ve been struggling to get good feedback on a project, so I tried something different. Instead of asking people for their thoughts I asked them to connect me. I deployed the Friend-of-a-Friend (FOAF) strategy. I examined my network of contacts and asked them to put me in touch with someone in their world who could help - and they did!

 

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In Praise of Code Names
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In Praise of Code Names

I’m helping coach a client through a six-month project with their team. As we were creating the roadmap, we discussed using a code name for the project. Unlike code names in spy movies, this project is not top-secret. But there are a few advantages of going with a code name…

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Ship At 80%
M.J. DElia M.J. DElia

Ship At 80%

You need to ship your work before you feel ready. Just so we’re clear: “shipping” is about releasing your work into the world. It’s a common term in IT and startup circles. Steve Jobs, for example, famously said “Real artists ship.” In Steve’s world, good ideas aren’t enough, you must finish them get them to market.

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Mindset Check
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Mindset Check

I’ve always been interested in opportunities that make me a little scared and a little excited. The Mindset Check worksheet is a fun way to explore your feelings about an upcoming challenge.   

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Ask For 15 Minutes
M.J. DElia M.J. DElia

Ask For 15 Minutes

“Everyone owes everyone 15 minutes.” This phrase has been rattling around in my head since my Hobnob interview with Jeff Narver last month. Jeff wasn’t referencing the standard “15 minutes of fame” quote that gets overused (sorry, Andy Warhol). He was talking about the secrets of networking – and I love him for it.

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Steady She Goes
M.J. DElia M.J. DElia

Steady She Goes

When conflict occurs, the goal isn’t quick resolution, it’s deeper understanding. I’m a Steady Eddy. I like harmony and peaceful interaction. When conflict rears its head, I want to rush to resolve it. I want to find the right joke that breaks the tension and returns equilibrium.

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Innovation Is Polarizing
M.J. DElia M.J. DElia

Innovation Is Polarizing

Ok, I’ll say it. Innovation is a polarizing term. It can be tough to be innovative when the world seems to be spinning out of control. Within our organizations, resources are tight, people are burned out, and knowledge work is being outsourced to AI. But what if these are the exact right conditions for more innovation and creativity?

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Podium Finish
M.J. DElia M.J. DElia

Podium Finish

If you’re like me, then it is easy to get carried away with your own to-do list. It’s tempting to stay focused on meeting your own targets and moving your own projects forward. But when you’re responsible for others, it can be helpful to look up from your own commitments and recognize the contributions of others.  

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Always In Transition
M.J. DElia M.J. DElia

Always In Transition

What is the space between two transitions called? Transition. Get it? Steady state is rare these days. To make sense of the world it can be handy to have a mental model (e.g., PEST, Four Frames), but don’t stop there. When facing uncertain circumstances, move forward but remain flexible. Get people involved in the conversation. Liberate, leverage, and re-assign resources to the right priorities. Treat storytelling as a strategic act.

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The IKEA Effect
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The IKEA Effect

It is not uncommon to have an affection for the things we build. Juliet Funt, High Performance Expert, calls this tendency as “The IKEA Effect.” In short, we like what we built because we were involved in building it. And the opposite is true: We like what other people built less, because we did not play a role in building it. This bias clouds our thinking.

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Think in 5D
M.J. DElia M.J. DElia

Think in 5D

Recently, I’ve been reading a lot about Appreciative Inquiry. As the name suggests, AI is about two things: 1) appreciating what is already working well, and 2) asking good questions. I have come to appreciate (!) one simple tool at the heart o the process: The 5D Cycle.

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Mind the SCARF
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Mind the SCARF

What stops people from entertaining creativity in their workplaces? I found many possible answers to that question, but I quite liked the social threat angle behind David Rock’s SCARF model. It’s hard to be creative when one of the following is under threat: Status, Certainty, Autonomy, Relatedness, or Fairness.

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Boring Beats Brilliant
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Boring Beats Brilliant

“Great leadership is boring.” So began Craig Groeschel at the 2025 Global Leadership Summit. His point? Most people celebrate the results of great leadership without noticing the routines. We see the stage performance and ignore the work behind the scenes. But consistency beats charisma.

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Warms My Facilitator Heart
M.J. DElia M.J. DElia

Warms My Facilitator Heart

Last week, I was at a virtual conference, and I heard two different speakers talk about the importance of facilitation skills. This wasn’t a passing mention either, this was a full-scale endorsement of facilitative practice. As a long-time facilitator, my ears perked up, and my heart warmed through.

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Make Moves or Excuses
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Make Moves or Excuses

I have a confession. I help groups collaborate to make good decisions for their organizations, but sometimes I struggle to make decisions myself. People often see a risk I take (that they can’t imagine taking), but they don’t see all the thinking, planning, and mitigating that goes on beforehand.

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Three Weekly Wins
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Three Weekly Wins

I don’t know about you, but I’ve had more than my fair share of rough weeks recently. But even during our worst weeks, we have small accomplishments that make us proud. The trick is to slow down long enough to reflect on those wins and be grateful. I created the Weekly Wins worksheet to start building a habit of reflecting on things that went well.

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Over Confident Intern
M.J. DElia M.J. DElia

Over Confident Intern

Stop me if you’ve heard this, but during a recent conference presentation I heard a speaker describe Generative AI (i.e., ChatGPT and all the cousins) as an over-confident intern. It made me chuckle – and then I realized that I quite like that characterization.

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Fill In The Blanks
M.J. DElia M.J. DElia

Fill In The Blanks

Last month, I decided to ditch the deck on two separate occasions. No PowerPoint. Just me, myself, and my notes. Before we get too far here, this is not an anti-PowerPoint rant. In fact, I quite like the challenge of trying to make complicated information more concise one slide at a time. I also love the visual element of designing slides (and yes, I take too much time trying to make them look just right).

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Social Snowflake
M.J. DElia M.J. DElia

Social Snowflake

As a hetero-normative, middle-class, white guy I too often forget that the systems in which we work and live have been built for people like me. These workshops have forced me to learn – and unlearn – a lot about the experiences of others.

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